You're desperately pleading to friends "help me save my relationship". You sense you and your husband or wife are growing apart. You hardly talk anymore, you fight all the time. And worse, you suspect he or she of having an affair. What do you do? What do you say to someone who says to you "please, what do I do to save my relationship?". Here are the three things most marriage experts would advise --
1. Figure out whether you both still want the marriage
Probably the most important determinant of whether your marriage can be saved is your desire for the marriage to continue. If one or both of you has no desire, the marriage might well be doomed.
2. Find what what's wrong
What exactly is wrong? What's pulling you apart? Often the fear of break-up overwhelms you when in fact the problems or issues are not hard to deal with when confronted aggressively. Like they say, don't fear the fear itself. Instead, sit down together, ask each other what's not working and come up with solutions. If this is too hard to do at one go, take a day or two to ponder and come back again.
3. Don't accept that any problem can't be solved
Remember that in marriage, there's no problem too hard to solve. It's merely a matter of how hard you want to work at it. Even if you both have absolutely no idea how to cope with an issue, you can always get help from a marriage counselor or a therapist. There are also many good "save my relationship" books and websites you can read or access.
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