How to Make a Man Love You

There are ways that you can make your man fall head over heals with you and it is important to learn the secrets. Many women face the issue that they love someone and they are not sure if he loves them. There are signs that will help you to know if he loves you or not.

First you need to determine if he loves you and the best way to know is to listen to what he says and how he acts. If he cares he will let you know by the things he says and how he acts when you are together with him.

Secondly it is important that if you are trying to make him love you that you do not smother him, make sure he does have breathing room. Be patient because if it is meant to be he will come around but in some cases he needs time. You of course do not want to wait for ever but if you do not rush him he may feel more comfortable.

Lastly you may want to find out some of the things that he really likes to do and join along with him even if it is not your favorite thing to do. It will show him that you are willing to compromise and do some things that you may not love to do and he may do the same for you.

Remember that making a guy love you is not hard to do but you need to be patient and things happen.

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By Bryan Burbank

Find Out What Men Want From a Relationship

Have you ever wondered what men want from a relationship? Do you wonder why some women always seem to have men chasing them? Would you like to be one of those women that always appear to get the guy? In the following article you, too, can learn what men want from a relationship and hopefully be one of those women learn to be one of those women that always gets what she wants.

It's possible that you have already met the man of your dreams that you're just trying to figure out how to get him interested in you. It's difficult to know what guys want out of relationships these days. There are so many conflicting reports. One thing is for sure, however, men haven't changed when it comes to the feminine wiles that women possess.

Men are generally first attracted to a woman physically. You should use this to your advantage. Don't go out of your way to make yourself a bombshell every time you are together, of course. This can be exhausting. However, it doesn't hurt to accentuate your positive attributes.

Of course, being physically attractive to a man will only get you so far. Then, you have to have something else to fall back on. Too bad it has to be so complicated, huh?

The great news is that you don't have to be drop-dead gorgeous to win over the man of your dreams. What men want from a relationship is someone that they can trust and confide in. Men are smart enough to know that physical beauty can only last for so long. If you're interested in a man that is only interested in you for your looks then you might want to run the other way. You will more than likely never be emotionally fulfilled by this guy because you're going to spend most of your time agonizing over whether or not you look good enough for him.

Being confident about yourself will win a man over almost every time. It's not about being a supermodel; it's about exuding charisma and self-belief.

Every woman has a set of qualities that she finds attractive about herself so don't kid yourself when it comes to finding things that you can be confident about. Take a good long look in the mirror if you have to. Don't hide those toned arms under long sleeves if you can help it. If you have beautifully sculpted legs then think about wearing skirts now and then. If you don't like the idea of doing it for him, then you should at least do it for you.

Men want a woman who can accentuate her great qualities while still being classy in the process. You don't have to wear a ton of makeup or let your boobs hang out to get his attention. If you think this is what you have to do to win him over, then he's probably not the type of guy that is going to want to make a commitment anyway.

More than looks, men want someone that they can talk to. The physical attraction must be there as well, but if there isn't an emotional bond then the relationship doesn't have anywhere to go. Try to talk to him about his interests, find out his likes and dislikes, and be a good friend to him.

With this in mind, it should be easy for you to not only get a guy's attention, but also hopefully move on to a successful relationship. What men want from a relationship is not that different from what women want-to be loved and appreciated.

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This article is contributed by Tina Jones. Tina is part of the Unforgettable Woman Publishing Team. She works together with founder Alexandra Fox and writes dating/relationship articles for women who want to understand male psychology, how to attract men, and find true love. You can find more about Unforgettable Woman Publishing by visiting their website.

By Tina L. Jones

Save Your Marriage Ladies and Gentlemen

Are you wanting to become a statistic? Well, if you allow your marriage to go down the tubes, that's exactly what's going to happen. If your marriage ends, you will become one out three unions that end because one or both of you refuse to do the right thing.

Men, this may sound a little old fashioned but being a real man doesn't mean how much beer you can drink or how many conquests you can hide from your wife. Grow up my friend. A wife needs a strong husband that will love, protect and be faithful to her. She also needs someone who cares about her more than himself.

The largest mistake a young man makes when he gets married is expecting to have a play thing for the rest of his life. Big mistake sir. God created her as a help meet with whom you have become one with. She's meant to be the one who walks by your side and not your servant.

Ladies, this may sound a little old fashioned to you too but if your husband wants to be the man you crave, you need to support and encourage him. The biggest mistake a young bride makes is entering a marriage with the intent of changing him into what they expect him to be.

And here is the biggey. You two are going to grow older. Sooner or later each of you are going to show it. Don't fool yourself. Things are going to happen less frequently like sex. If she has had kids, don't be surprised if the little lady you married gets a bit more fluffy. It happens. Quit acting like it's her fault. That's what happened with my darling wife. I just had to resolve myself that there was more to love. If she can loose the weight and is willing, you need to encourage her. He could use that type of encouragement too for that matter ma'am.

Marriage means the two of you are supposed to become one. Not only physically but also spiritually. There needs to be communication between you two, time spent together, and some re-sparking of that romance you probably thought you didn't need any more.

Stand together and be of one mind when it comes to raising your kids. There is nothing more destructive to a marriage as being divided on how the kids should be brought up or even allowing the kids to divide you by playing one against the other.

Some of the strongest marriages, believe it or not, are those where husband, wife, and kids are in a good, bible based church together. Don't knock it until you try it. It's worked for my wife and I for the past thirty two years. Hey, I'm a preacher. You can't expect me not to mention that.

By Tim J. Davis

On the Value of a Best Friend

Who can know how valuable a friend is, with the exception of the one who considers the friend? Having someone we share our deepest thoughts and aspirations with, can bring hope into an otherwise empty life.

A friend may be a member of our family we grew up with, or it may be someone we have only recently met. People make friends in many different ways.

When your best friend is a someone you grew up with, you continue to hold dear many of those childhood experiences you shared, throughout life, they tend to keep you close.

Unlike the childhood friendship, a new friendship takes nurturing, sharing, much conversation and investment of time. The rewards of any friendship are far greater than the effort it takes to grow a relationship.

Though most people have a list of, "friends" they can name to you, most will honestly tell you there are only one or two truly best friends in their lives. Every good friendship requires time to develop!

A good friend is to be cherished above the possession of gold! When you experience friendship, you experience unity of spirit. To the degree you have mutual interests, you will feel spiritual bonding.

You cannot buy a true friend, a friend loves at all times, they do not hold grudges and they forgive you before you even have to ask.
Money cannot bring about this sort of relationship, only by free choice, can you find someone who will be this type of true friend.

When you have a friend of this quality, you will want to let them know how special they are to your life, don't pass up the moment! Do it now, call, write, or just sit down and list off to them the qualities you appreciate in them and what those qualities mean to your life. We must not overlook the value we gain from friendship.

Many people marry their best friends, only to let that friendship be squandered away due to lack of involvement and investment, don't let this happen to you. As you realize the good qualities in your friends, realize how their good qualities better your life, give thanks, give thanks, give thanks! Be grateful, thankful and happy, because you have the opportunity of returning this wonderful gift of friendship, as no one else in this life, can do!

Be a friend!

By Cheryl G Burke

A Guide to the Perfect Summer Guest

The Do's

Be on time.
Cardinal rule #1. If you say you will meet them at the marina at 7 p.m., make sure you are there by 6:45 p.m. Cottagers have their own schedules, dictated by weather and darkness. Start off on the right foot by respecting theirs.

Bring Gifts.
A no-brainer. They don't have to be elaborate gifts, just thoughtful. New magazines, music, a tankful of gas for the boat, anything that will make your hosts happy to have you. One of the most appreciated gifts is a selection of good wines, some for consumption on the weekend and some to stock your host's bar. When they open your wines later in the summer, they will remember your thoughtfulness.

Bring A Meal and Cook it
The gesture alone is priceless. Give your hosts a break by planning, cooking and serving an entire meal for them, complete with wines. It doesn't have to break the bank, although no one ever complains about beef tenderloins on the grill. It can be as simple as pre-cooking and bringing a lasagna, complete with garlic bread, salad and wine. This is especially appreciated on Friday nights, when, after the drudge of a long week at work and stop-and-go traffic en route to paradise, the last thing your hosts want to do is feed the masses. Do it for them. And don't forget to do the dishes. Always.

Pitch In
Whether you call it a cottage, a cabin or a camp, there is always something that needs to be done at a vacation property. So help clean up, sweep the paths, sharpen the kitchen knives, scrub the algae off the hull of the boats, nail down loose boards on the dock, etc. And don't forget to hang up your own towels and bathing suit, and to collect others after they dry.

Sleep on Their Schedule
Out of the city, even creatures of habit can revert to their natural wild state. Late risers become 6 a.m. fisher folk, and night owls hit the sack by 9 p.m. Go figure. Whatever time your hosts rise, try to follow suit. If you rise before them, make the coffee and slip away with a book or go for a walk. If they are early risers, roust yourself and make a mental note to nap later.

Bring Your Own Stuff
And keep it in your room. That means batteries, cameras, books, MP3 players. The last thing your hosts need is to have to lend you towels, a bathing suit, their last eight Double-A batteries, or to have your belongings strewn all over their common living space.

Go With The Flow
You may wind up playing Scrabble, Monopoly, Trivial Pursuit on a rainy afternoon. You hate games. Today, you love them.

Clean Your Room
Make your bed, hang up or fold your clothes and towels very day, and treat your room as if you live in it. You do, by the way. After your stay is complete, strip the beds, offer to do the laundry, and leave your room cleaner than when you arrived.

Sign the guest book
Many cottagers of long standing maintain a guest log, which in itself makes for a fun read about times past. Use the opportunity to write something witty and gracious that will make your hosts remember you fondly.

Send a handwritten thank-you note
In our hyper cyberworld, the handwritten thank-you note is a lost art. But one that will put you in good standing among the guests your hosts entertain this summer. Use fine paper and a fountain or calligraphy pen. You may also send your hosts a gift, as long as it is useful and not ostentatious. A new fishing net, for example, or a set of gardening tools for the cottage horticulturalist.

The Don'ts

Don't Bring a Furry Animal Unannounced
Especially not that cute 150-pound Saint Bernard puppy that slobbers on everyone at the dinner table. Check with your hosts first to see if they have dogs or cats and wouldn't mind four more legs.

Don't Hog the Shower
Most cottages have a limited capacity septic system for grey water such as showers, dishwater. etc. Be considerate by not showering everyday, and by taking a short shower, or skipping it entirely by taking dips in the lake. Your hosts, who probably have septic system management down to a science, will appreciate your consideration if you ask them about using water at the cottage.

Don't Skinny Dip
Fooled you, ha ha! Of course you will be skinny-dipping, unless you are in plain view of the neighbors. Check with your hosts to find out the piscine protocols in their neck of the woods, whether it's best late at night, or if you can sneak in a discreet swim before anyone else is up.

Don't Expect To Be Entertained
It's not your hosts' job to make sure you are having fun. Arrive with plenty of ways to entertain yourself, whether it's a good book, your personal music system, a birders' guide and binoculars, or a walk in the woods.

Don't Leave Things Behind
Some people chronically forget things. Don't leave your jackets, rain gear, sweaters, fishing tackle, etc., behind. Space is limited at most summer vacation properties, and you don't want your hosts to think that you are that thoughtless person who leaves things for others to look at all summer. Or worse still, that they think you might have conveniently forgotten something to cadge a return invitation. Take inventory when you arrive, and check things off as you leave.

Don't Bring Your Office Appliances
Leave the laptop, cellphone or Blackberry at home. Some hosts are strict about drawing the line between weekends and work. If you have to bring your office toys with you for whatever reason, keep them out sight and in your room. Under no circumstances should these devices be used in the company of others, unless your hosts ask if they can use them. It's just plain rude to bring your office into someone's vacation spot.

Don't Overstay Your Welcome
Sometimes, warmed by wine and collegial conversation, your hosts may be having so much fun that they ask you to stay on for a day or two. This sounds great, except that by the morning, they may be looking for some peace and quiet, and wished they had exercised less vino and more veritas before making the offer. Your response? Express gratitude, but beg off graciously on account of pressing work back in the city. Reiterate what a relaxing time you've had and how much you enjoyed your hosts' company. My rule of thumb on this statute of limitations is the same as Ben Franklin's: After three days, both fish and guests begin to smell.

Enjoy your summer!

Roz Usheroff is one of the most sought-after executive trainers in North America. Author of "Customize Your Career," West Palm Beach-based Roz has conducted business coaching seminars and workshops for men and women executives at a number of Fortune 500 companies. For further information see http://www.usheroff.com or call 561-289-5441.

By Roz Usheroff

Relationship How To - Should You Really Remain Friends? Consider This

I'm writing this article because I see all too often people stuck in unhealthy relationships. Many people are too blinded by a sense of safety or loyalty in keeping around a highly negative friend. Let me tell you... If you are friends with people who you feel like are dragging you down, put you down, try to dominate you, make you feel bad in any way, or are discouraging, then you are doing nothing but hurting yourself. As you read this, think of your friends, and consider what you are about to read.

Depending on your social circle, the effect of having a negative people in your life can range from simply feeling bad around the person, to driving you into a full blown depression. The people around you not only affect you directly (as in, by putting you down, or discouraging you and making you feel bad in the moment), but also affect your values and outlook on life without you even being aware of it. It doesn't stop there. As they affect you, you affect others. People are connected as if through a web. So, as you sit here and read this article, look at your social life with a critical lens.

A study published in the British Medical Journal shows that when your friends are positive (i.e. happy people), they will not only positively affect YOU, but also your friends that don't know your happy friends. Guess what? It doesn't stop there. Your friends will then will make somebody else happy. It's a snowball effect to the 3rd degree. This study found that sad people don't have as strong of an effect. Why? Because normally, people will avoid other sad or negative people. Even though most people act correctly by avoiding negative people, there is still a considerable number of individuals who DO NOT do this. I see this almost every day. If you're reading this article, perhaps you're not acting like the average individual... You are perhaps too loyal to your negative friends, which is hurting you. Let me explain what is the most damaging effect of keeping negative friends around.

As I mentioned before, keeping negative people in your life will not only affect you in the moment, but also in the future. It will affect your values. This is the most dangerous effect out of the two. Why? Because you will begin sharing a negative outlook on life with your friend... therefore, possibly driving you into a dangerous depression.

So, keep your wellbeing in mind, my friends. I'm not saying you should abandon your friends in need, but do become more aware of people's general outlook on life and how they treat you. If their negativity is not situational (as in, something bad just happened), then it's likely their outlook on life and they should get dumped. Now, on the other hand, if your friend just had something bad happen to him or her, then it's your duty as a friend to pull them up with your happiness. Nurture a happy environment. Take care of each other, and most importantly, take care of yourself. You cannot help anyone if you yourself are not happy.

You can look at the happiness study from the BMJ at http://www.bmj.com/cgi/content/full/337/dec04_2/a2338

Student of Psychology, Buddhism and Mental Health Counseling at Columbia U.

By Joe Taloe

Relationships, Do People Bug You and You Don't Know How to Handle It?

Is there someone that continually rubs you the wrong way? Or plays people against each other in front of you? Or talks about people behind their backs, making you uncomfortable?

All of this isn't good of course, and the worse part is, you don't know how to handle it.

Maybe they are a relative, boss, friend that you are stuck with for some reason? Maybe you like them, but then they pull THAT old stunt. Maybe you work for, or with, them, and
can't afford to quit. Maybe you stay in that situation out of feelings that you OWE them. Cripes, that's the pits, isn't it?

Well, if you don't already know that nothing is good or bad, but thinking makes it so -- think about that sentence for a minute. I know, I can hear you already. "But what they're doing, having, thinking, being is WRONG."

The question is, have your reactions so far, your reactions to them being wrong, gotten you anywhere? Anywhere that accomplished a positive change, that is?

No, right? How do you know? Because it's STILL the same-ol'-same-ol'.

It's time for a change, then, isn't it?

OK, here's the usual scenario. They did this. You did or didn't do that, as you usually do or don't do. They repeat what they usually do. YOU get upset, and you TRY not show it. Am I right so far?

OK, good. Now that we've figured out the merry-go-round routine, here's how to stop it.

TIP: Notice I'm not saying anything even remotely close to "This is how you can change them", because we all know that change starts right here -- point at yourself -- and if it doesn't, the problems will just keep coming back. The change has to start within

Imagine or pretend you have a laser beam. The beam itself is a brilliant yellow-colored beam -- not the Star Wars red. Have it come out of the center of your forehead, or better yet, your heart if that feels more comfortable. Remember, whatever works, works.

The minute the "same ol', same ol'" scenario starts, turn on the laser beam. Aim it straight at them. Surround them with this beautiful light. The laser beam is full of LOVE, so feel the peace it gives both of you.

TIP: Some people are not comfortable sending out love to people they don't even like. If that's the case for you, change it to something you do feel comfortable sending out -- happiness, success for all, forgiveness . . . There are lots of good choices.

Practice this until you feel great. This is the picture they will respond to now, and isn't that terrific?

What goes around, comes around. Stand back and watch. It's coming. You know it is.

Thanks for reading.

Jan

By Jan Tincher

What to Do When a Friend Really Breaks Your Heart!

I was in a place where bombs were going off all over the place. My name was being tarnished, gossiped about and secrets of mine were being posted on the Internet. What I assumed as a good friend had hurt me and hurt me bad, and when confronted with what they had done vehemently denied it in front of my parents and two senior pastors. What course of action would you take, what did my parents and pastors suggest, and what was the final outcome after 2 years breakup? Here are some things to consider if you have a falling out with a best friend.

My Story

One of my friend's worst attributes was the habitual gossiping that he did in company. Let's call him Bob. I said to him once, "Do you realize Bob that there is not one person that we both know that you have not said something about?" He shrugged it off and continued his story. That should have been my warning. I should have known that when I was out of his company that he would be talking badly about me, but I am so innocent in my love, I just wouldn't believe it.

I struck up a friendship with another guy James and soon I was hearing reports James that all the Bob seemed to talk about when he met up with him at night was bad things about me. Over the years Bob had learned many things, many special things about me, and he went on to share that he thought my stories were bogus.

James started to tell me more and more that Bob wasn't being a true friend to me as he sat with people around and made fun of me.

Soon James and myself were becoming quite close and it came to a head one night when Bob was with us and exploded at the table that he may has not even be with us as we were ignoring him. The little green monster of "jealousy" had reared its ugly head. Bob went off in a storm and with the help of a third party logged onto YouTube to James and my account and wrote some very personal stuff about myself in a really mocking way. Bob also that night gave my silent number to an arch enemy of mine who began to harass me on the phone at all hours at night until I changed my phone number.

As a Christian, I sent the emails that Bob sent me full of threats and swearing to two senior pastors hoping one of them would call both Bob and me into a meeting so things could be settled with their input.

Jesus says confront the person that has wronged you, tell them plainly what they have done, and if they repent (admit they did wrong and ask you to forgive them and promise not too do it again.) then we are to forgive them.

At the meeting Bob would not admit to the senior pastor that he had posted the bad remarks on YouTube. If he had of done that, I would have forgiven him and made things right, but his own pride would not allow him to confess to it.

At that meeting I told the pastor that from this day on, I would still be courteous to Bob, but I would no longer mix with him socially as a friend. Bob thought this was very callous of me.

I was struggling inside as I did not have a lot of friends at the time and so I asked my father what I should do. Should I go back to being Bob's friend? My father said, "Matthew, if you had a dog and every time you came home it bit you on the leg what would you do with the dog?"

I replied, "You'd have to put it down or get rid of it."

My father replied, "This is not the first time Bob has hurt you and come against you. This is about the fourth time that your mother and I can count. It's time to say goodbye and keep away from him."

Well it says in the Bible to honor your mother and father and this carried me for a while and yet I still missed my friend and so I went to my other senior pastor at another church, who was a woman.

I asked her what I should do with my friendship with Bob. She told me to go home and write a list with all the good points about Bob and all the bad points. And have a look at the bad points and the good points and decide whether the good out weighs the bad or the bad out weighs the good. She said when you make the decision stick to it.

Well that decision was final, or so I thought until a few weeks ago. I was singing in praise and worship and it had been announced that I was finally published in my States Salvation Army Magazine. Jesus spoke into my ear and said to sign the article and go and give a copy to Bob. I did that and gave him a hug and we returned to being friends.

I had obeyed what my father had said and my pastors had said and now I had the verse that Jesus said, "If our brother sins against us we should forgive them 70 times 7."

The first night out together Bob admitted to me that he had done the youtube posting with help from a friend. ( the arch enemy)

But today there are new rules.

If Bob is found out gossiping about me and speaking down about me he will go back to being not my friend again for a period that the Lord chooses.

If Bob goes out with me, he is not personally allowed to gossip in my presence.

My head pastor at the Salvation Army( the only church I attend now) says that I have to have new rules and boundaries for myself. I have to agree with her.

So here are five points you can take from my story.

1.If someone is treating you bad a break from time spent in the friendship might do the other person some good and teach them a lesson.

2. It is always wise to consult people you admire that are in authority in your life about such important decisions. It is wise not to just go with your emotions.

3. It is good to get your friend to a meeting with a pastor or counselor, which is a third party, to talk about the issues.

4. Forgiveness is a good thing and it can change people, but setting new boundaries and rules for your friendship to exist on is a good way to go.

5. Jesus died and rose again to give us all a second chance, so if possible see if you can give others a second chance, even if the time your spend with them is greatly diminished.

So here I am. I am three weeks into a new relationship and my friend is beaming. He hasn't gone and told the pastors that he was really the one that posted the messages on YouTube, but then I guess they don't have to know.

I hope this has helped you.

Be Blessed

Matthew Robert Payne

By Matthew Robert Payne

10 Ways to Win More Friends and Be More Popular

There is a world of people out there just waiting to get to know you. That may seem implausible, but it is true. There are many people who would like you and want to be your friend if they only knew you. And so, part of winning more friends and being popular is getting out there and meeting more people. There are several other ways to win more friends and be more popular but let's start right there.

1. Get out and meet new people
Of course, you can make friends with people you have met and had a little to do with for years. But the chances are that if you have known them a while and you still don't count them as friends, they aren't the kinds of people with whom you would want to strike up a friendship. That means, to make more friends, you have to get out and meet new people. Find a new interest or hobby and get out to relevant gatherings so that you can meet like-minded people.

2. Strike up conversations
Talking with a stranger can be difficult, but until you have had a conversation with them, you can't know whether or not you like them. You can't make them your friend without talking with them. This is easier if you have met over some mutual interest, like at a concert, sports meet or club. If you have met someone this way, you already know that they share a mutual interest with you so you can talk about that. Even if you just make a comment about what you think on the topic, the chances are that they will reply with a comment of their own, and then you have started a conversation and you're on the way to becoming friends.

3. Be a good listener
Friendship is based upon communication. That is a two-way street. So, as well as having to be able to start conversations if you want to win more friends and be more popular, you have to be able to listen to the answers that you get so you can respond to them appropriately.Conversations need to be two-way processes. In order to make friends, you have to get to know people quite well, and you can only really do that by not only talking to them, but by listening to what they say to you. In order to have the confidence to talk to people and to have them ask you questions too, you have to:

4. Like yourself
Again, you may not find this easy, especially if you have had a lot of negative feedback in your life, but you need to do it. It sounds like a cliché, but if you want other people to like you, you really do have to like yourself first. If you like yourself, you will project yourself differently and deal with people in quite a different way to how you would if you didn't like yourself. If you are negative or down on yourself, you are more likely to evoke feelings of pity rather than friendship. So, learn to like yourself and make it easier for other people to like you and be your friend. Start with finding just one thing that you like about yourself. Make as much as you can of this attribute and let it buoy up your confidence.

5. Know yourself
If you are truly going to like yourself and not compromise on your happiness in order to say you have friends, you need to know a few things about yourself. You need to be honest with yourself about what your ideas, values and beliefs are. Are some of these beliefs blocking you from making friends? These could be all manner of things: offensive ideas, negative self-beliefs which stop you talking to people etc. On the other hand, are there ideas and beliefs which you really hold dear and don't want to change? These things should be reserved in your personality even as you seek friends. It would also be a good starting point to think of finding potential friends who share these ideas, too.

6. Smile
If you smile at people, it helps to make them feel more important and valued. People like and respect people who value them, so you will appear much more positively in their eyes if you smile at them. Smiling makes it look like you are having fun, and consequently, as if you would be fun to know. People will be attracted to that and want to get to know you better. They may even be intrigued and wonder what your secret of happiness is!

7. Stay true to yourself
Part of liking yourself and being able to smile openly and be receptive to new friends is in staying true to yourself. You can't really like yourself if you change yourself to fit in with the 'in' crowd, doing things that you don't agree with. So don't do it! Having found what you like about yourself, keep it that way. Of course you can adapt slightly. Friendships, like all relationships, require adaptation to another person, but in doing that, you shouldn't lose sight of who you are. You shouldn't do things you don't agree with, just to make friends. They aren't the right friends for you if you need to change yourself that much for them to like you.

8. Be selective about your friends
More friends are not necessarily better than good friends. With good friends, they will know the real you and like you for who you are. They will share your interests and at least some of your opinions. Those are the people who will make you happy, so choose your friends with care. Don't be talked into doing things you don't want to do, just to have their approval.

9. Put yourself out for people
True friends don't just make small talk. They help each other. So, if you want to be more popular, you should be there for the bad times as well as the good. If you have a friend who needs you, you should be willing to help them. It may be as simple as giving someone a heartfelt compliment. That will make them feel good and make them want to be friendly with you. Of course, there is no need to compromise your standards or to bankrupt yourself to help a friend. Sometimes all that is necessary is for you to be there to listen to them as they tell you their troubles. Sometimes they may call on you for practical as well as emotional support. Good friends give this support to each other.

10. Give friendship time to develop
Friendship isn't born in one or two conversations. It develops over time. Trying to force the issue of friendship will actually push people further away from being your friend.

Relax and trust that you are someone worthy of friendship. Smile and appear as if you are open to friendship by talking to people and listening to what they say to you. Look for friends in the people who share your interests and stay true to yourself. You will soon attract people to you and develop friendships with them. Let it happen!

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By Peter Murphy

Are You Heading For a Relationship Breakup? - 3 Warning Signs You Can't Ignore

The most terrifying time of a relationship is when you feel it slipping away. The saddest time is when the relationship breakup actually happens. You don't want it to happen and you become confused and frantic. Are you heading for a relationship breakup? This becomes your only thought. You begin experiencing every dark emotion possible. You feel betrayed and rejected.

You begin blaming yourself, you think " What did I do wrong?" You start going through the "Why didn't I do this" and "Why did I do that" phase, that is always part of the initial parts of a relationship breakup.

This is not going to help. Sure, it's good to isolate the causes of your partner's discontent. But taking the time for self blame and doing nothing is only going to make things worse. You need to act and act quickly.

Hopefully, you have seen signs of the breakup coming in time to prevent it. It is very important that you recognize the warning signs that you are heading for a relationship breakup in order to act in time to stop it.

Here are the 3 warning signs that tell you that your healthy relationship is heading for relationship problems:

1. Spending less time with you. This should be your first warning. It seems that they would rather be with other people than be with you. For instance if they used to spend one evening with friends each week, but that time increases to two and then three evenings a week, you should see trouble coming.

2. Less communication. You can't have a healthy relationship without communication. If your partner doesn't seem interested in what you have to say and seems always in a hurry to be doing something else, let this be a warning sign of a coming breakup. If they would rather watch a movie on television or read a magazine, this is a way of spending less time with you and soon that time will become none.

3. You are arguing more. Certainly arguments and disagreements are to be expected in any relationship, no matter how sound it is. But, if your partner seems to be picking more fights with you and finding fault, this could be a way of their showing that you are not compatible any more and that will give them an excuse to end your relationship.

By H. L. Archer

The Real Cause of Relationship Breakups - How to Avoid It

The real cause of relationship breakups can be avoided so easily if we would only recognize it. Instead many other things are blamed for the breakup but the real cause is seldom dealt with. This is why so many relationship breakups go unsolved. In fact, if you asked a party to the breakup years after it happened they still would not be able to tell you the real reason.

The four reasons usually given for a relationship breakup are:

1. Cheating. One of the partners strayed and the other partner was unable to cope with the situation or forgive the straying partner. No doubt this is a good reason for breaking up but it is not the real cause. The real cause of relationship breakups was probably what was behind the cheating but it wasn't the real cause.

2. Finances. At some time during a relationship, financial problems are bound to arise. Perhaps because of losing a job, overspending or poor management of funds. When things get tight we become worried and irritable. The tendency to snap at each other or place blame occurs. This too can become a serious problem, but it is not the real cause of relationship breakups.

3. Children. Bless their hearts, they can be such a joy and yet such a problem. Many victims of a relationship breakup will blame the inability to agree on the ways to raise them and the time involved in doing so as the reason for the breakup. This too can lead to serious problems for a relationship but it is not the real cause of the breakup.

4. Sex. This can no doubt be a very big contributor to lack of relationship harmony. When one or both of the partners are sexually dissatisfied, discord is bound to arise. It can lead to the cheating and disinterest. But still this can be overcome if the real cause of relationship breakups are avoided.

Any relationship can be saved With the proper steps and the right kind of communication. If that seems a little over simplified, think again. Tell me which of the above relationship problems cannot be overcome or solved by doing and saying the right things at the proper time. You see, we get so swept up in our everyday trials that we do not talk to each other. When we have something about the relationship that does not please us, we keep it to ourselves and let it fester and grow until it becomes overwhelming and then we act. But, most often the actions we take are destructive instead of constructive and there goes the relationship. The sad part is that learning the right techniques of effective communication may be all that is needed to avoid relationship breakup. By H. L. Archer

How to Save Your Marriage and Live Happily Ever After

There are two personal principles on the vicious cycle that most marriages undergo. The first one starts from a fairytale romance to a light, bubbly and happy married life in wonderland. The second one starts from a supposedly "happy ever after" courtship to getting married and furthermore to a relationship from hell! Whatever from these two your marriage might end up with, you must be initially prepared on the circumstances. Learn some effective ways on how to save your marriage and go on with a happy married life. Secondly, you must be consistently ready with leaving your previous lifestyle behind and start a new with the one you love.

The Sacrament of Marriage is a solemn vow and I personally would be so afraid to break the vow. Learning ways on marital issues is not so masochistic after all. You are just opening and broadening your thoughts on living with a partner and loving him or her with your whole heart. This does not necessarily mean that you should submit to every preference opted by your spouse or be a dictator to your husband or wife. Try to meet the two ends up.

Ways on how to save your marriage is not a subjective matter. Resources such as books, e-books or counseling sessions do not function as pure hype. They may be helpful and prove effect on you but the whole process depends solely on how you take them. Seriously, the fickle- minded couples are the ones who are prone to break- ups. And the sensible couples on the other hand will most likely consider the ways on how to save the marriage.

But on the other hand, the ways on how to save your marriage must be objective. This process is about connecting with your partner in all aspects and learning the things you should agree with most of the time. Learn to diminish your childish ways and grow up maturely. Simple things would lead to complications if you do not know how to save your marriage. This is just a matter of a give and take relationship. If the idea could not really sink into your porous belief, try to first examine yourself. Be humble for the meantime and reflect on your wrong points. Try to weigh things up and then try to speak calmly with your spouse for a healthy conversation. You might as well try to cool down for a while before entering into that serious conversation. The technique is to think deeply and intensively. Start from the root cause to the resolution until you come up with the perfect agreement between the two of you. Think for a million times especially when you have children. Disregard the angst and focus on what your children may feel.

Your marriage is guaranteed to stand the future tests of time if you are equipped with tools on how to save your marriage. There might be time when you pass through the rocky road but rest assured you will end up sailing on smooth and serene waters if you always focus on how to enhance the relationship with your spouse. Then living happily ever after is never too far.

By Ht Parker

How to Make Your Ex Desperately Desire You to Take Them Back! Amazing Tricks

For your ex to come running back into your loveless arms again, it is important that you first awaken the senses of desire within every bone in his/her body.

To do that, you will need to take some concrete steps that will certainly make your ex desperately desire you to take them back.

Become an object of desire. Although it sounds cheap, one sure-fire way of attracting your ex's attention is to awaken the animal instincts that could have dulled over the years. Get a complete makeover and step in front of your ex at a party. Your ex will get knocked over by your new looks and instantly desire you again.

Earn your ex's respect and admiration. Get into your own life routine by working hard. Get your social life in order by partying again with friends and also take good care of your looks and your body. Once your ex views your improving life and body, he/she is sure to feel pangs of regret mixed with new respect and admiration for handling the breakup with great aplomb.

Flirt in front of your ex. Another guaranteed method of awakening feelings of desire is to make your ex jealous. Flirt with other fish in the party where your ex too is present. Once your ex looks at other fish fawning all over you, he/she is sure to get jealous even as feelings of desire envelop your ex's mind and body. Make sure that you do not cross the limits of decency and stick to flirting by talking and flicking your eyes only.

Pretend to swim away with another fish. You can also pretend to get serious with one of the fish circling around you. But, make sure to keep one hand outstretched towards your ex while indicating that if he/she does not grab it quickly, you just might swim away into the deep without your ex. By now, your ex would be desperate with desire and would simply jump in to grab your hand in joy and relief.

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By Jason Leading

How to Re-Ignite the Past Love With Your Ex - Sure Fire Ways Which Are Guaranteed to Work

If you hope to win your ex back then it is vital that you first rekindle those sparks of passion that could quickly fill your ex with the same love that he/she had when you had first met.

In order to do that, you will need to stimulate your ex's physical and mental senses, so that he/she comes running after you again.

Get a makeover. A proper makeover that upgrades your looks, clothes, hair, body and even attitude will simply stun your ex and make him/her want you right there, right now.

Forgive and forget. If your ex has made a mistake that can be forgiven then be the bigger person and forgive your ex. This will win the admiration of your ex. If need be, then ask for forgiveness from your side too.

Hark back to the past. Remind your ex of the amazing moments spent at wonderful places while intertwined in each others loving arms. This will get your ex in a nostalgic mood and bring out feelings of love.

Find out what made your ex go weak in the knees. Get into flashback mode and find out the things that attracted your ex to you. Was it a specific look or attitude? Reinvent the same so that your ex falls in love with you again.

Gift your ex small gifts or flowers. If your ex loved the small gifts or flowers that you used to present to him/her then wait for any upcoming occasion such as a birthday and do the same again.

Help out your ex. If your ex is in financial trouble or simply needs someone to help paint the house then lend a helping wallet or hand and watch your ex gratefully acknowledge your help.

Give hints to your ex. If your ex has mellowed down then give hints to your ex that you still love him/her and could get back into the relationship only if he/she made a positive move. By now your ex would be madly in love with you again and could just be waiting for such an offer.

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By Jason Leading

How to Get Back Your Ex - It's Really Not That Hard If You Follow These Steps

Breaking up is hard for anyone, unless your are numb and have no feelings about anything at all. The worst part is the heartache and self-doubt. You are always thinking about what you could have done differently. You overload yourself with questions that you may never get answered. At some point, you realize that you need to learn how to get back your ex. Here, you will learn a few pieces of helpful advice that will assist you in your efforts to win back your ex.

The first thing that you need to do, immediately following the break up, is to sit down and write a letter. In this letter, you need to refrain from saying hurtful or insulting things. The purpose of the letter is not only to give you some emotional closure, but also to let your ex know what you are feeling about the situation. This letter is important because sometimes it is easier for people to say what they need to on paper instead of face to face. It is also important that you don't admit any guilt. Simply state that you think it is wise to take a break from each other so that you both have the chance to think about things.

Once you have written and delivered your letter, end it there. Don't call or drop by, no matter how tempted you become. You need to allow a period for cooling down. A standard amount of time is about two to three weeks. Remember, for you to learn how to get back your ex, you need to allow for a no-contact period.

During the no-contact period, you should involve yourself in activities that make you happy. Try doing some of the things that you did before your relationship began. Your life does not have to stop because your relationship did. It is also vital to your emotional healing that you learn that the whole world does not revolve around your ex.

Once you have passed the no-contact period, you can make an attempt to contact your ex. Try to arrange a meeting. Make sure that you let your ex know that you would like to talk about things. To make them more comfortable, let them choose the place for your meeting. Talking about things like adults may be the key to learning how to get your ex back.

Here is the most important question you must answer - Do you want to get back with your ex? There are proven steps that are amazingly powerful that will have your ex asking YOU to get back together. These steps are so powerful that they GUARANTEE that you will get back with your ex. This is a plan you do not want to pass by. See the proven steps on how to get your ex back by clicking here. By William Law

How to Mend a Broken Relationship - Stop Your Breakup and Regain the Love in Your Relationship Again

Relationships happen because two people are in love and have respect for each other. But what happens when the relationship suddenly ends? One or both the persons involved may be bitter with each other. Before it's too late, here are some ways on how to mend a relationship.

Stop the Blame. After the failed relationship, regardless of who was at fault, it is never healthy to blame one or the other of what went wrong. It is best instead that you see what really went wrong and ask yourself whether you can do something about the issues or not.

Say you are sorry. At the very first possible chance, sincerely apologize to your ex partner. Did you not know that the simple "sorry" word alone can work like magic? Yes, it may sound hard and you may look like you are not strong enough. But in the end, keep in mind that forgetting to say you are truly sorry can eventually damage the relationship.

Be a Good Listener. The moment you get to sit down with your ex partner and discuss your issues, bear in mind that being a good listener can take you a long way. When you partner talks, just listen. Avoid butting in or making counter accusations. Although you might feel the need to justify, just wait for your time. After all, the best way to communicate is to listen to one another.

These are simple yet very ideal tips on how to mend a relationship. In case you are suffering from your own failed relationships, these tips can really help you go a long way.

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By Casey Gentles

How to Affair Proof Your Marriage?

Having and maintaining a relationship requires a high level of maturity. A serious relationship for example a marriage is a form of business alliance on a personal level. A marriage requires highly competent individuals. Unfortunately, there are some individuals who jump feet first into a relationship yet they are not competent to stand in a serious relationship. Marriage is serious business. It is not for the faint of heart. In order to be ready for a marriage one has to be ready in heart, mind, body and soul. How do we get ready?

Well, we first need to be committed to working on our self-growth and that way we will attract a partner who is also committed to working on their self-growth. A marriage has two people who have a different set of emotions and different sets of issues. If we are unable to heal our issues how are we going to be strong enough to handle issues that arise in a marriage?

Therefore it is important that we are mature enough to have certain discussions when the relationship we are in is getting serious and before getting married. If we take the time to commit to growing ourselves to become mature adults then we are on our way to affair-proofing our marriage. The next step is for the two people who are involved in the relationship to have a candid and open discussion regarding their expectations within the marriage if and when an affair does happen.

Discussing the chances of an affair occurring should have the same ranking as a pre-nup. It should be discussed before the marriage. A lot of women set themselves up by not including that in their pre-marital discussions. Both she and her partner should know where the other stands on issues of affair. It is very important to not leave anything to chance in your marriage. While no one can predict what is going to happen down the road, knowing before hand how each person feels about affairs will strengthen the marriage bond.

And if there happens to be a slip-up, both parties should be mature enough to discuss it and find out what caused it to happen. They should figure if the marriage is in trouble, does the individual wants out of the marriage or do they want to work on making the marriage stronger. However if the marriage was not strong before and was built on lack of respect, trust and deep intimacy then an affair is the first sign that the marriage is not working.

Men deserve happiness in the same way women do. A man may despise having an affair, but he may have grown up seeing his father and the men around him behaving the same way and seeing his mother and other women stick by their husbands. So, while mentally he may know that having an affair is not the right step, sub-consciously he has been taught that it is okay because the women will still stick around. There are women who grew up seeing their mother's putting up with their father's behaviour while suffering silently.

So these women grow up with the resolve to not put with that kind of behaviour. Men like women are simply acting out what they saw their own parents doing. However, there is a different approach. Simply learning from our parent's mistakes is not enough. We are still prone to repeating their behaviours that we saw while growing up. When we begin to grasp that few if any of us were taught how to be emotionally mature or how to develop our emotional selves we will begin to define a different life for ourselves.

Rather than criticize a man or woman who is having an affair it would help if we understood where the behaviour is coming from. Some of us may not even realize that we are behaving just like our parents. Instead of focusing solely on why men cheat or have affairs, let us begin to focus on how to develop our emotional self so that we do not engage in emotionally immature behaviours.

Whenever a man cheats, there is a woman present who is being cheated on. It is easy to point fingers. However, assigning blame is also an immature behaviour. It is important for a woman to be mature and take responsibility for her own insecurities which led her to get involved with a man who is also insecure. Sadly, many women take it personal when a man is unfaithful.

That may be because she has looked to him for her happiness. She needs to understand that when her partner is unfaithful, it is about his issues and not about her. When he lies about it, then it becomes about her, because now he is disrespecting her by lying to her. Unfortunately, many relationships crumble because of this particular lack of understanding. However, if a partner is honest and straightforward it is possible for the marriage to be recover. This is where maturity and commitment to working on the marriage comes into play. So while it is not possible to predict the future and we do not know what our response will be when it does occur, by being prepared for we at least have an advantage when we do find our relationship in the middle of an affair.

About The Author:

Trudy-Ann Ewan, Founder and CEO of Create Your Passion, is a Creative Life Coach, who specializes in the healing of mind, body, heart and spirit. She works with individuals who are seeking to empower themselves and become more confident to live the life they desire. To learn more visit her website at: http://www.createyourpassion.com where you can sign up for her free informative Newsletters, participate in interactive quizzes and Coaching Assessments and where you can also join her coaching program. You can join her on Facebook: http://tinyurl.com/FB-CreateYourPassion

How to Affair Proof Your Marriage?

Having and maintaining a relationship requires a high level of maturity. A serious relationship for example a marriage is a form of business alliance on a personal level. A marriage requires highly competent individuals. Unfortunately, there are some individuals who jump feet first into a relationship yet they are not competent to stand in a serious relationship. Marriage is serious business. It is not for the faint of heart. In order to be ready for a marriage one has to be ready in heart, mind, body and soul. How do we get ready?

Well, we first need to be committed to working on our self-growth and that way we will attract a partner who is also committed to working on their self-growth. A marriage has two people who have a different set of emotions and different sets of issues. If we are unable to heal our issues how are we going to be strong enough to handle issues that arise in a marriage?

Therefore it is important that we are mature enough to have certain discussions when the relationship we are in is getting serious and before getting married. If we take the time to commit to growing ourselves to become mature adults then we are on our way to affair-proofing our marriage. The next step is for the two people who are involved in the relationship to have a candid and open discussion regarding their expectations within the marriage if and when an affair does happen.

Discussing the chances of an affair occurring should have the same ranking as a pre-nup. It should be discussed before the marriage. A lot of women set themselves up by not including that in their pre-marital discussions. Both she and her partner should know where the other stands on issues of affair. It is very important to not leave anything to chance in your marriage. While no one can predict what is going to happen down the road, knowing before hand how each person feels about affairs will strengthen the marriage bond.

And if there happens to be a slip-up, both parties should be mature enough to discuss it and find out what caused it to happen. They should figure if the marriage is in trouble, does the individual wants out of the marriage or do they want to work on making the marriage stronger. However if the marriage was not strong before and was built on lack of respect, trust and deep intimacy then an affair is the first sign that the marriage is not working.

Men deserve happiness in the same way women do. A man may despise having an affair, but he may have grown up seeing his father and the men around him behaving the same way and seeing his mother and other women stick by their husbands. So, while mentally he may know that having an affair is not the right step, sub-consciously he has been taught that it is okay because the women will still stick around. There are women who grew up seeing their mother's putting up with their father's behaviour while suffering silently.

So these women grow up with the resolve to not put with that kind of behaviour. Men like women are simply acting out what they saw their own parents doing. However, there is a different approach. Simply learning from our parent's mistakes is not enough. We are still prone to repeating their behaviours that we saw while growing up. When we begin to grasp that few if any of us were taught how to be emotionally mature or how to develop our emotional selves we will begin to define a different life for ourselves.

Rather than criticize a man or woman who is having an affair it would help if we understood where the behaviour is coming from. Some of us may not even realize that we are behaving just like our parents. Instead of focusing solely on why men cheat or have affairs, let us begin to focus on how to develop our emotional self so that we do not engage in emotionally immature behaviours.

Whenever a man cheats, there is a woman present who is being cheated on. It is easy to point fingers. However, assigning blame is also an immature behaviour. It is important for a woman to be mature and take responsibility for her own insecurities which led her to get involved with a man who is also insecure. Sadly, many women take it personal when a man is unfaithful.

That may be because she has looked to him for her happiness. She needs to understand that when her partner is unfaithful, it is about his issues and not about her. When he lies about it, then it becomes about her, because now he is disrespecting her by lying to her. Unfortunately, many relationships crumble because of this particular lack of understanding. However, if a partner is honest and straightforward it is possible for the marriage to be recover. This is where maturity and commitment to working on the marriage comes into play. So while it is not possible to predict the future and we do not know what our response will be when it does occur, by being prepared for we at least have an advantage when we do find our relationship in the middle of an affair.

About The Author:

Trudy-Ann Ewan, Founder and CEO of Create Your Passion, is a Creative Life Coach, who specializes in the healing of mind, body, heart and spirit. She works with individuals who are seeking to empower themselves and become more confident to live the life they desire. To learn more visit her website at: http://www.createyourpassion.com where you can sign up for her free informative Newsletters, participate in interactive quizzes and Coaching Assessments and where you can also join her coaching program. You can join her on Facebook: http://tinyurl.com/FB-CreateYourPassion

Marriage Problems? Uncover 3 Causes of Depression to Solve Them

Early in my career, on a Friday morning, a couple came to me with a whole pack of marriage problems; name calling, ignoring each other, yelling at each other. A real mess. (I really don't like ending the week like this.) According to the wife's description (who complained that he bossed her around, was arrogant around other people that embarrassed her, and eat "like there was no tomorrow" I didn't dream that he was suffering from depression.

However, it turned out that these are all signs of depression in MEN and after we worked on his depression things turned around for the good.

Depression is a big factor in many marriage problems and it is important to identify what is causing the depression so you'll be able to overcome the depression and begin to solve your marriage problems.

In this article I will present 3 common causes of depression (as identified by Dr. David M. Burns).

1. Success = Worth. People tend to equate their self worth and importance with their success in business, personal relationships, or academic accomplishments. On the surface this seems true and, I have to admit, that there are some very positive benefits to be gained when you live with such an assumption. It motivates us to work better, improve our social skills, and study harder.

The truth is, however, it simply ISN'T true. It's a lie!!! You have self worth because... you are you; a human being. Even a person who is sick and lying in bed is invaluable and precious

Not only is it not true but, even though in the "short run" it can help you, in the long run it can RUIN you.

For instance, how many people do you know that lost their jobs because of the present financial crunch (2009), that has nothing to do with them, and feel tremendously depressed and now have marriage problems. Well if you don't know anybody like this, unfortunately there are lots of them How did this happen? It all happened because they "bought into" this defective and inaccurate belief belief that your worth is a derivative of your success?

2. Perfect or Bust. Another similar and defective believe that causes depression and consequently marriage problems is the believe that only perfection is success. Anything less than perfect is failure.

Is a successful person ALWAYS successful and NEVER fails?"

A very interesting fact was recently brought to my attention. Wilt Chamberlain and Michael Jordan, two of the greatest N.B.A. stars of all times, had 30.1% lifetime averages. This means that these two stupendous players failed to put the ball in the hoop 69.1% of the time!! Or to translate it into more practical terms; they missed 7 out of 9 shots!

So many people suffer because of this false idea. If you are having marriage problems because of this type of thinking; then face the facts and begin to see the world the way it really is; imperfect.

3. "It Should Be..." thinking. This means that a person has a preconceived idea of how the world SHOULD be. "If I'm a giving person then people SHOULD reciprocate and give to me." "People SHOULD be more considerate." etc.

The harsh reality of the world, though, is that not all people think the same way as you do. Therefore, people locked into such thinking get depressed or irritable.

Underneath a lot of marriage problems lurks depression. Identify the cause of the depression, begin to work on it, and you'll solve more of those problems that you thought were unfixable.

By Shevach Pepper

Save My Relationship - I'm Worried Sick, Can My Relationship With My Spouse Be Saved Or is it Dead?

You're desperately pleading to friends "help me save my relationship". You sense you and your husband or wife are growing apart. You hardly talk anymore, you fight all the time. And worse, you suspect he or she of having an affair. What do you do? What do you say to someone who says to you "please, what do I do to save my relationship?". Here are the three things most marriage experts would advise --

1. Figure out whether you both still want the marriage

Probably the most important determinant of whether your marriage can be saved is your desire for the marriage to continue. If one or both of you has no desire, the marriage might well be doomed.

2. Find what what's wrong

What exactly is wrong? What's pulling you apart? Often the fear of break-up overwhelms you when in fact the problems or issues are not hard to deal with when confronted aggressively. Like they say, don't fear the fear itself. Instead, sit down together, ask each other what's not working and come up with solutions. If this is too hard to do at one go, take a day or two to ponder and come back again.

3. Don't accept that any problem can't be solved

Remember that in marriage, there's no problem too hard to solve. It's merely a matter of how hard you want to work at it. Even if you both have absolutely no idea how to cope with an issue, you can always get help from a marriage counselor or a therapist. There are also many good "save my relationship" books and websites you can read or access.

By Suzanna Murdoch

On Small Town America

With the world wide web alive and well today, Small Town America, takes on a whole new idea. The community that is so famous for the small town, has grown into a community that crosses oceans.

By becoming acquainted with those across the sea by web based processes, expands our friends and neighbors beyond belief.

When you think of a this concept, some thoughts that come to mind may be knowing all your neighbors, names, ages and sex of their children, where they work, and so on. In today's world, we know these things about people whom we are connected with, that may live thousands of miles from our own town. We become so close with some of these folks, they become like family, sometimes they become family!

Small Town America, connotes a place where people care, a place where you will be friends no matter what comes between you. The international web has brought this idea into an expanded version of this lifestyle.

As we connect with people around the world in a familiar setting, we simply are upgrading from the commercial trading and sharing of commodities that has been taking place for many years, bringing this connection into the everyday life of the web user!

We have the ability to cause the Small Town idea to develop into a great community of family. Though this has already been the case for years through the importing and exporting of goods, now it has come down to the everyday Joe, becoming friends with far away family.

Small Town America just opened Her doors, to the family!

By Cheryl G Burke

Top 10 Ways to Know He is Into You - Signs He is Ready to Commit

We, as women, spend a lot of time trying to read between the lines with these men. We want to know is he going to ever commit. It drives us crazy trying to figure out if they are or are not into us. They can often send off all kinds of signals and they change from day to day. Men can be confusing. Below are a few ways to help you stop guessing and hopefully be more assured in your relationship.

#1

He teases, and picks on you, bantering so to speak. Men are like boys, they love to play. Its like sports, if he is including you in this play, he likes you for sure.

#2

He asks you out. Even if you play a little hard to get, he keeps trying. Also if he actually picks you up and does not ask that you meet him.

#3

He calls. No 3 day rule. If he is smitten, he will toss the rules aside and call you.

#4

He respects you opinion. If you can disagree with him in an open manner and engaging manner, his head will spin. Men love smart women.

#5

He compliments you. He tells you that you are hot immediately.

#6

He pays and does not think twice about it. Cheap men just want food and sex.

#7

He loves talking to you. If you are on the phone and say "Well I guess I better let you go" and he says, no that's ok, I am not really doing anything", he is into you. Chat him up and show your intelligence and he will be hooked.

#8

He doesn't mind if you put him in his place. Stand up to him in a respectful way and he will admire this. It shows him that you are true to yourself. Men love women that they can't walk all over.

#9

He takes you to special places. He does this because he wants to see how you respond and he wants to impress.

#10

He does things for you, like cut the grass, move your furniture around, things that make your life easier. Also if he buys you things, no matter how small. T shirt at a concert, brings you over your favorite cocktail, even if its beer. Just small things that he knows you like. This is a really positve sign that he is moving towards a commitment.

When a man wants to commit, he will show it. He will start assuming that role and acting like your boyfriend. Once he exhibits this behavior, he will start to naturally move towards you seeking to be exclusive and into a committed relationship.

Men want to be in a committed loving relationship. It just takes the right woman to inspire this in them. You can take a man from casual to committed if you just understand how they really view commitment and how they move towards it. They do not move into commitment like we women do. To understand more, here is a helpful site. http://www.squidoo.com/thetruthaboutmenandcommitment

By Robin Cockrell

Why Are Men Scared of Commitment? 5 Reasons Why Guys Are Scared to Commit in a Love Relationship

Some guys are serious when it comes to love relationship but mostly are scared to give their commitment. It really depends at what age they start to have their love relationship. Some of them started at a very young age and some of them are not matured enough to be serious in a relationship. So, get to know more about the reasons why men scared of commitment especially for a long term relationship.

Past Experience

Some guys get themselves involve in a love relationship without preparing to fully commit. This happened most probably because they were hurt by their past experiences. For example, if a guy is hurt deeply by a girl he loves the most, he will be traumatized and scared to really give his commitment to build a new love. He is afraid that the same thing will occur again if he commit too much. He needs time to build back his trust and confidence in love relationship.

No Confidence

Another reason why guys are scared of commitment is simply because they are lack of confidence in themselves. They are pessimistic that the love relationship won't last long and a lot of problems will occur. To avoid suffering in the near future, it is better for them not to be too serious in a relationship. Thus, the girls play an important role here to let the guys have faith in a relationship. Show him that you do care for the one you love as much as he cares for you.

Irresponsible

Some of the men are scared to commit simply because they don't want to be responsible if anything happen in the near future. They are afraid of the responsibility if they commit too much in a relationship. For example, if a guy gives his full commitment in building a relationship, he is afraid that he will be forced to be tied down with marriage. They still want to enjoy their youth and the freedom in life.

Girl's Attitude

Besides guys, some of the girls also treated love as a part of game in life. Some girls get involved in a relationship just to make fool of the guys. This can be another reason why guys are scared to commit themselves in a love relationship. They doubt if the girls they love will betray them one day and follow another guy. Thus, girls must always give their beloved ones some sense of security so that they can fully commit in a relationship.

Too Young

Nowadays, a lot of youngsters start to involve themselves in a relationship at a very young age between 13 years old to 18 years old. This is what people usually call 'puppy love'. They just want to get the feeling of having a companion. Thus, they never plan for a long lasting relationship.

These are the main reasons why guys are scared of commitment in a love relationship. Sometimes, you can't simply blame a guy if they don't want to give their full commitment or if they are not serious with you. There might be some reasons behind it. If you really love a guy, try to understand him. Play your role as a great life companion for him and encourage him to put his effort in the relationship as well.

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By Sarah Nichols Smith

Embarrassing Questions to Ask a Guy That You Must Ask Before You Commit

It seems like there's so much discussion related to guys committing to relationships. Why won't he commit? What can I do to change his mind? What exactly is he afraid of? But the truth of the matter is, evolutionarily speaking, girlfriends have a lot more to lose by committing to toxic relationships than do the opposite sex (more on that later). So how can a girl know, I mean honest to God know, if that guy she's with is worth exclusivity? Well, as a woman you probably have a number of standards, hopefully high, that filter out the losers from the keepers. Even so, there's a laundry list of embarrassing questions to ask a guy (ie your guy), not necessarily all at once, that give definitive hints that he may be worth his weight in gold. Here they are:

1.) How many other women have you been with and for how long? A high number doesn't necessarily indicate anything bad, but an upright guy should be able to recount details and emotions from each interaction. Also look for relationship length here. A one-night-stand isn't a crime. 50....that may be a different story.

2.) Have you ever had an STD? A lady's got to know. In this day and age, there's no reason why guys (and girls) shouldn't be up-front with one another about their sexual health. If your guy's hesitant or doesn't seem open to discussion, discuss your history first and go from there.

3.) What will we do if I become pregnant? Before you send your man fleeing for the hills, keep in mind that a sexually active couple, no matter how conscientious, is at an ever-present risk for pregnancy. And the sooner you have the "What do we do if we get pregnant?" discussion, the better. This is a talk many couples dread, but it's a necessary one.

Mary Jane Walker

Long Distance Relationships - Making it Work!

Don't be surprised if you find yourself in a long distance relationship. Long distance relationships undoubtedly insert additional strain and present their own unique challenges in marriage. Or, at the very least, they make the current challenges all the more demanding to overcome. Most marriages form a schedule, and unexpectedly being shoved into a relationship that is fundamentally dissimilar can cause some major backlash.

Wrecking The Standard

Household dynamics are entirely disrupted with the onset of a new long distance relationship. While one partner must endure traveling or living abroad, usually for work-related reasons, the other partner is left "holding the bag" with all the household chores. This is definitely true if children are an issue. Even the loving family pet becomes an extra burden when only one partner is at home to care for it.

Depending on the maturity level of your kids, you will likely see a variation in their actions when one spouse is forced to spend time missing from home. Even though they may perhaps not give the impression like they are affected, be aware that your kid's worlds have also been shattered by the family disturbance. This can only intensify the anxiety level the non-traveling spouse is experiencing. It's essential to try to have patience with your kids and recognize that they are not as grown-up in comprehending how to contend with the new situation.

Steps That Should Help

The one who is not at home should revel in gratitude and at least communicate an understanding of the additional load that is now left on the stay-at-home spouse. Simple "Thank Yous" make a big impact in demonstrating understanding for a challenging situation. Showing a willingness to help out directing the kids, while you are away, is not only a great boost, but also expresses readiness to do your part even if not around physically.

Also, be ready to accept additional responsibilities if you come home. Or, at the very least, make sure you talk about your husband or wife's challenges when you finally return back home. Traveling is tiring as well, so clear discussion on expectations is essential for those precious weekend days.

Beware of Resentment

The 'at home' partner needs to guard against anger, and stay honest about his/her viewpoint, but without nagging. If you don't feel your spouse is supporting you for the added duties you have taken on, you ought to be intelligent in how you express it. Constantly expressing how challenging the situation is for you will possibly only push away your partner.

Learning to work together throughout challenges is a skill most married couples find challenging. Taking the time to understand each others wishes not only assists throughout a long distance relationship, but also assists once the two of you are re-connected. If you are having difficulties resolving conflict and creating intimacy with your spouse, be certain to look into the FREE marriage strategies we have created from our program: MarriageMap - 90 Days To A Spectacular Marriage.

By Robert E Davis

How to Get Your Boyfriend to Propose to You - Ways to Make Him Commit

Knowing how to get your boyfriend to propose to you can save you from months, or even years, of heartache. Nothing is quite as disappointing as being crazy in love with a man, wanting to become his wife, when he just doesn't seem as interested in commitment as you are. Most of us take the direct route when we're in a relationship like this and we try and convince our boyfriend that marriage is the right choice. That's not the best approach to take with a man who is commitment shy. If you want to get him to pop the question you have to ensure you are doing just a few things.

Understanding how to get your boyfriend to propose to you begins with recognizing that men and women view this subject very differently. Men often see it as a power struggle and therefore they'll do everything in their power to resist the idea of marriage. Women, on the other hand, see it as the ultimate act of adoration. They believe that if their man really loved them, he'd be down on one knee proposing. Women actually play into a man's feelings about resisting marriage by pushing more and more for it. You may have actually experienced this with your boyfriend. Have you pushed him to marry you, only to have him pull back more? If you have, there's one thing you need to change that will actually dramatically change how he views serious commitment.

If your man is shying away from commitment, stop talking about it. Don't bring it up again. He'll expect to have to verbally battle you on it and when you suddenly drop the idea altogether, he's going to wonder why. If a man knows that he has your heart all to himself, he's not going to be too concerned about popping the question. He doesn't have to be. The way he sees it, there's no competition and you're not a challenge. You need to change his way of thinking on that. Start by being more distant and less available to him. If he asks why you don't want to get married anymore, tell him that you suddenly realized he's been right all along. He'll sense you slipping away and it's his natural fear of losing you that just might make him get down on one knee and propose.

There are specific things that any woman can say and do that will make her men want to commit to her. If you believe that he is the man you are destined to be with there are things you can do right now that will make him feel exactly the same way about you. For more insight into how to get your man to commit to you, visit this Helpful Site! You don't have to wait for him to decide whether or not he's ready to commit to you. If you are tired of putting your dreams on hold because he's commitment phobic, there are things you can do to make him want to marry you now. Learn right now what you need to do to make him fall to his knees and beg you to marry him. By Gillian Reynolds

How to Avoid Falling in Love With Love

Falling in love with love has been the subject of parody from the time of ancient Greece, to Shakespeare's Twelfth Night, to the present. The 1938 Rodgers and Hart show tune describes falling in love with love as "falling for make-believe" and "playing the fool."

Do real life people actually fall in love with the idea of being in love? Unfortunately, it is actually quite common. Someone wants desperately to have the husband or wife of their dreams. They visualize the vine-covered cottage with the white picket fence. They choose the colors for the nursery. They design all the aspects of their married life. So what happens when mister or miss "Right" offers a brief smile?

Just as in the comedies, a person who is in love with the idea of love sees prospective partners through the lens of idealism. The reaction is, "This must be the one. They are so perfect - the match of my dreams." Is that person they just met a perfect match? It's unlikely their friends think so. So what happened? That person with the cute smile was not much more than a mirror for the hopes and dreams of the one in love with love.

If the relationship proceeds in spite of the warnings of friends and family, a grand crash awaits later. The idealism and vision of a perfect marriage explodes into a firestorm as soon as it becomes clear that the prospective partner was far from matching the idealized image.

Might you be in love with love? Might you be dating someone who is more in love with the idea of love than in love with you? Consider these questions about yourself and the person you are dating.

Before you met, did you have a clear image of who you wanted to marry? Perhaps you knew that you wanted to find a partner who is loving, kind, responsible, likes kids, isn't possessive or domineering, doesn't smoke or do drugs, and holds compatible beliefs about religion. It is important to have established standards such as those on which to evaluate a prospective mate. However if your image of the person you want to marry is highly visual or sensual, you may be in love with the idea of love.

Does your image sound like, "My husband is going to be six feet, with black wavy hair, no hair on his chest, big hands. We're going to have three children, and my husband is going to be the little league coach and boy scout leader for the boys." Or, "I'm going to marry a petite blond with big firm breasts. My wife is always going to wear a dress, and she is never going to work after the kids are born." Those sorts of images don't provide any room to marry a real person. No one could ever live up to those fantasies, and a relationship based on such fixed images is bound to crash.

While the preceding paragraph presents an exaggerated picture of falling in love with love, just tone it down until it matches what you have observed in a few of your friends. Then ask whether either you or the person you are dating has any tendency toward being in love with a fixed image of how a partner should be.

By Jonathan Huie

Love Triggers - Know What Makes Men Tick

What are the most powerful love triggers in the dating game? What makes men tick? Is it possible to develop a personality that any man would love? It's entirely possible to become a woman that men would love to spend time with, but you'll need to keep these love triggers in mind before you can take the first step.

#1 - Have a great personality.

Having good looks is okay, since it grabs attention and opens the door for men to walk up and talk to you. But to capitalize on the situation, you'll need a great personality. Too many good-looking women turn men off simply because they don't know how to talk about anything besides themselves.

Try to be funny, confident, and independent. Learn to talk about bigger things in life, such as current events, his situation, and your own dreams. Men love women who can carry a great conversation, and would love to take such women out on dates often.

#2 - Don't just talk to anyone.

When you walk into the dating game, it's a good idea to know the kinds of men you like to meet. Don't be like most women who'd date just about anyone, hoping they'll get lucky and find someone who's also desperate for a relationship.

Decide who you want to meet. Do you like smart men? Good-looking men? Businessmen? A woman who's selective with the men she dates is very attractive, and is a definite love trigger.

#3 - Don't rush into a relationship.

The third love trigger is a woman who takes her time to develop a more solid emotional foundation for the relationship. Too many women rush into relationships, which give them the unflattering image of being needy and dependent. Be the opposite of this, and men will definitely notice you.

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By Tina L. Jones

7 Tips Guaranteed to Build Trust in a Relationship

Often times in a relationship you may find things have become a little stale and boring. This can happen for a variety of reasons. Sometimes what makes the relationship really gel are things you don't always think of naturally. For example many people think they always need to "spice things up" This can backfire on you. Being predictable is often more desirous in a relationship than variety. My article will deal with 7 steps that are guaranteed to grow your relationship by improving the level of trust between yourself and your partner.

As I mentioned above, you need to be somewhat predictable. By this I don't mean boring, but consider that trust in your relationship is built on your reliability from day to day. This goes against the common thought that you need to be constantly stirring things up. Of course going to a different restaurant or surprising your partner with a vacation or gift can be nice, but keep in mind that you need to keep things somewhat consistent in order for your relationship to flourish.

One of the most important aspects to consider when you think of how to build trust in a relationship is your personal communication, specifically your words and your actions. If you say you are happy but you are frowning or acting sad all the time, your words are not matching your body language and your partner will pick up on this. Your partner needs to be able to trust that you mean what you say. When your actions match your words, then you are working toward building trust in the relationship.

Thirdly, you need to possess an honest belief in the competency of your partner. If you do not, you will not have the trust that your relationship desperately needs. Although the truth hurts sometimes, when communicated in a sensitive manner, it is never destructive. Deep down inside if you do not feel that your partner is competent you are indeed violating the trust in the relationship.

Here's a biggy. Don't keep secrets from your mate. This is a sure fire way to destroy trust in any relationship. You should always be open and honest with your partner. A good assumption to make is that everything you know will eventually come out in the open. Keeping secrets just takes too much energy and its way to easy to slip up. When that happens once again you have destroyed the trust in your relationship. Better to spend that energy in to building trust in the relationship.

The fifth tip here deals with you and your needs. Don't be afraid to communicate to your mate what your needs are. Don't try and make them guess what you need. Take care of yourself, but do not become selfish. Once you begin to assert yourself in this manner your partner will then become more comfortable in communicating their needs to you and the end result is more trust in the relationship.

Sometimes it's okay to say no. It is a positive aspect when both you and your partner are communicating your needs to each other. But keep in mind that you don't always have to agree with everything especially if something makes you uncomfortable. Your partner will never respect you if you never say no. Refusing to submit to the other person's will can actually help to build trust in a relationship.

Lastly, don't be afraid to pursue change and growth within yourself. In order for you two to grow together, sometimes you have to dig in the dirt a little. This can be painful, but through that pain you are setting the stage for future growth in the relationship. Challenge the difficult and don't be afraid to grow and change.

By Brian Marshon