Love and dependency may sound like two sides of a coin but they are as different as day and night. They may look and feel the same but eventually they never go together successfully.
When we are in love we feel dependent or codependent but it always results in loss of freedom. Undoubtedly love makes us dependent and we start taking each other for granted but when the reality strikes we realize it may not be as much dependency as it is clinging to each other or getting addicted. And to compulsively cling to any relationship is to forgo individual choices and tread on each others space. It may become very stressful and even self loathing at times.
Loving someone itself doesn't guarantee dependency on that person. Rather than loving as an act of love we simple act out an addiction. And addictions never are good. They always result in loss of self esteem. In a relationship when we only focus only on others need it the beginning it may sound like the act of love and depth of relationship but losing individuality is like losing self respect.
If a promising relationship starts to deteriorate our self esteem is shaken, especially if that relationship was intense and full of love and expectations. And we simply refuse to believe and accept it because we always thought if you loved enough that's all that is needed to be in a relationship.
Fact is that love and relationship are two different things. Though it feels like same it never is. Relationship succeeds with a lot of hard work and not just feelings. All the loving in the world does not necessarily translate into a successful relationship. It may not sound true when you are in love but when the love wears off you are left with nothing but pain and void feeling. You had started to grow dependent but now you just feel hurt and clingy and may be not so good about yourself.
However, the silver lining is that we can learn the skill to keep a relationship going. Lack of skill does not result in loss of self esteem as lack of love does. It can be motivational to know that we can be independent yet make our relationship work for a long time. When we become more reliable, honest and realistic, our relationship will have a better chance of survival.
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