Any psychologist will tell you that when you're in a marriage that is crumbling, it's one of the most devastating experiences one can go through. This is even more so when you don't want the marriage to end and you want to stop a divorce. But the worst is, when you are alone in trying to save your marriage: i.e. your spouse wants a divorce and you don't.
At this stage I'd like to point out that I feel for you. I know how you feel since I have been in the exact same situation - I was in an ending marriage that I was alone in trying to save. I did everything I could think of, but couldn't make an inch of a progress. Everything seemed hopeless.
Yet, today I am still with my husband and our marriage is stronger than it has ever been. It's like a lifelong honeymoon right now, and it's such a joyous thing to feel that I want to share my experiences of how I achieved it so that people can learn from my experience.
I would like you to read the following sentence a couple of times, since it's the key to saving any marriage. The first and most powerful step you must take is to retain control over your emotions.
Yes, the situation you're in is devastating. You cannot change how you feel about your situation. But you can control those feelings and prevent them from making you do things that are even harmful to your marriage.
Such things are unfortunately very common in people with our condition; and again unfortunately, it's what ends most marriages that could have been saved otherwise. When you let your emotions guide your actions, they will make you cry, cry, cry and go beg your spouse for forgiveness. There is not a single effective marriage-killer as crying and begging your spouse.
I know that it is very tempting to do that - but that temptation comes from the fact that your emotions are running rampant in your brain right now. What you have to do (and what I did to save my marriage) is to ask for some outside advice. When there are clear steps in front of you that you must take, it prevents you from going by yourself and doing the wrong things.
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